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Sep
2014
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Watching Your Ex Via Facebook? Here’s the Secret…

 

I remember the first time I got dumped.

 

I was mortified and cried for weeks. Even though the guy made it clear he no longer wanted me, I wasn’t willing to give up that easy.

 

I stalked that boy like there was no tomorrow! I went through every photo, tweet, and post he ever posted. If I spotted any girls “liking” his new posts or writing on his wall, I would go through their profiles to see what they looked like.

 

I would spend HOURS comparing myself to those girls, making up scenarios in my head of what “could be” going on, and beating myself up over the idea of him moving on. I would develop so many emotions and tears –simply over someone saying “Happy Birthday” on his wall! I was pitiful.

 

Why did I decide to bring that story up?

 

Because social media is only as affective as we allow it to be. If we don’t want someone’s every move to affect us, then it’s our responsibility to play our roles and stay in our lanes.

 

Even though my ex made it clear he didn’t want anything to do with me, I wasn’t ready to let him go. So, I used social media to know the parts of his life he no longer included me in. It was unhealthy and sickening.

 

In my upcoming book, I Believe in God, Now What?, I talk a lot about my past failures with relationships, sex, rape and how all of those collective experiences led me to accept Christ. 

 

Although I had to learn the hard way, those past mistakes taught me one of many important facts I want to share with you- when God closes a door, leave it closed. Don’t use social media to peep through the cracks of that door.

Philippians 3:13 says, “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.”

Not keeping your past in the past will only hinder your future. God makes no mistakes. So, if God has allowed something to end, there’s a good reason. Trust Him. If you found this blog inspirational, please use the share buttons below to inspire someone else. (See other blogs on this topic and pictures below) 

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Other blogs on this topic: 

1) Should you Keep in Touch with Your Ex?

2) “I Don’t Want a Relationship…Let’s Just Chill”…Here’s the Truth About Statements Like That

3) The Truth About Someone Who Breaks Up with You Because of Your Past

4) 4 Reasons Why You’re Still Single

 

 

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Me and my boyfriend (Eddie). We’ve been in a Godly relationship for almost a year now and we are looking forward to marriage! I know that this blessing wouldn’t have walked in my life if I was still stuck on the past of my exe’s social media sites. Praise God for His grace and the courage to move on to the best He has for me!

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4 Responses

  1. Anonymous

    I’ve been reading through a few of your blogs and this, among others has definitely hit home. I’m dealing with this obsession right now. My ex broke up with me after 8 1/2 years for someone else he had been cheating on me with. I’m feeling very lost and disconnected with so many things because of it and it’s hard for me to let go. I never saw this coming and can’t comprehend why it’s so easy for him to go. So I’ve been social media stalking…just hoping that maybe he’d realize the “error of his ways” and want me back but that’s never the case. All I do is get hurt in the end. I’m having a hard time stopping now because it’s become such a habit. Asking for lots of prayer on this and letting go and finding my self worth. Thanks for writing this!

    1. Hey !! I can definitely relate. I encourage you to take those feelings of being lost God . He wants to heal you and allow you to see your worth. But, you’re going to have to do your part by spending time with Him . I look forward to hearing your testimony of transformation! I know that guy didn’t know your worth and I believe that it’s a blessing in disguise he’s out of your life. It’s much better this happen now than for you all to get married and it happen through a divorce . Praise God for bringing to light what was in the dark! Soon enough, you’ll be thanking God he’s gone . Don’t be bitter. Forgive and pray for him. Act in love and let God have His way in your life .. Love you 🙂

  2. Brenda

    This is so me right now! Everything you’ve described. It!s been six months since I broke up with my ex. I’m constantly cyber stalking him and analyzing way too much what “could be” going on. This just allows the pain to keep lingering. I can’t let go yet. I’m working very hard at accepting and letting go in therapy. I believe I’ll get there one day, hopefully soon.

    1. I know you can move on! I know you can do it. Don’t hold yourself back from the other open doors God wants you to pursue. I don’t know what those open doors are, but I know it’ll be hard to recognize them if you’re stuck on the past. Do yourself a favor and do what I did -block your ex from all social media outlets. That will eliminate all temptation to stay in the past. Also, be sure to replace that voided space with God and His Word. That way, you don’t leave filling empty. Google “scriptures on moving on / the past/ love” to help you with this . I’m here if you need encouragement! You can do this! I love you !
      -Jordone

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