If you’ve ever had trouble getting over your ex, I can relate.
I can remember the first time a guy broke up with me that I thought I loved.
Years later, I had finally gotten over him. But, he would try to come back into my life through Facebook messaging or social media.
Fortunately, his tactics didn’t work. I kept a level head and didn’t give in to the temptation to answer him.
Part of the reason I was able to remain strong was because I put on a new mindset. Romans 12:2 tells us,
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind , that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
If you truly want to get over your ex, you have to understand that transformation can only begin with the renewing of your mind.
Have you ever had an ex that seems to always creep back up into your mind or life?
In your heart, do you feel God tugging you away from that individual but still have difficulty forgetting about the times you had together?
If any of the above apply to you or you feel like you never truly got over your ex, here are some tips to remember:
1) “You will never get over your first love”: NOT!
Don’t give a man a title that only God can have. In Revelations 2:4, Christ makes it clear that only God must be our first love.
If you want to let God help you move on, you have to believe you can be helped.
Stop letting cliches, family members, and even so-called friends cause you to think your emotions have more power than your God.
2) Be mindful of your every thought:
As soon as a thought comes about your ex, immediately cast it out and replace it with a scripture.
Birthdays, holidays, and special occasions make it easy to fall into the trap of meditating on what you and your ex did when you all were together.
Instead, meditate on 2 Corinthians 10:5 to help you.
3) Know God’s voice vs. your own voice:
Knowing God’s voice vs. your own thoughts will help you get over an ex.
Oftentimes, women will think about an ex and think, “Hmm..maybe God is trying to tell me something!” No, honey, that’s not God, your thoughts are just directing your life!
If you want to know God’s voice clearly, you have to spend time in His Word.
4) Just because he reaches out to you, that doesn’t mean you all are meant to be together:
Staying in God’s Word and in prayer is the only way to be in tune with what God is really saying about your ex.
Don’t assume that a Facebook message from your ex is a sign from God, especially if you haven’t even been spending time with God and have no familiarity with His ways or His voice.
5) Your time with God will be your stronghold:
You can’t expect God to do His part to help you move on if you’re not doing your part to spend time with Him.
Where do you expect your strength to come from if you’re not even in His Word?
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