Why Won’t God Send You a Husband?
Have you ever felt like everyone around you is married, engaged, or ‘booed up’ except for you?
Maybe you’ve been praying for a husband or boyfriend for years now but he hasn’t come along yet.
You may say to yourself, Why not me God? When will my time come?
I can’t say that I know what waiting on a man feels like because, before my relationship with God, I was always so man hungry that I never really found myself single. I had a lot of built up pain on my heart and used men to fill my voids. (Read about that experience here.)
However, I can relate to feelings of loneliness. I know what it’s like to feel like everyone around you has a perfect relationship except for yourself. And, I’d like to help those out there who still may feel lost or alone in the midst of their single life.
Often times, we are our own worst enemy when it comes to discovering the relationship that we desire. God may want that man for you, but is there something in your life that’s blocking your blessing?
Here are some tips to help you remove any barriers that could be keeping you from married/relationship life. Learn from my mistakes by taking the following into consideration:
1) Let go of the wounds– Who haven’t you forgiven? What animosity is still harboring your heart? There’s nothing wrong with staying away from someone who doesn’t mean you well. But, there’s a problem if you still carry those wounds on your heart. God doesn’t want you to enter a new relationship with old baggage. You’ll only blame your new man for past wounds and expect him to heal insecurities that only God can take care of. (Read about my experience with past wounds and relationships here).
2)Give God your all– God wants to be the God over all of our lives, not just apart. The same struggles that keep you from God could be the very things that keep you from receiving that person He has for you. We can’t expect for God to give us a Godly man if we’re not being faithful Godly women too.
3)Preparation– Ok so maybe it’s not your time yet. But, what are you doing in the mean time before that man arrives? This time should be spent getting to know God better. The stronger you are in God, the more prepared you can be when God is ready to share you with someone else. Relationships and marriage are work. Are you honestly even prepared to receive what you’ve been praying for?
Don’t be discouraged. You have that desire to receive a husband for a reason. First, ask God if your desires are His too. Then, ask Him to lead you towards becoming that Godly woman that He desires. The waiting may seem agonizing but God’s timing is perfect. You wouldn’t want Him to give you your husband at a time in your life when you’re unfit and unstable? Trust that God knows what He’s doing. If you put your all in Him, then there’s no need in worrying when the next guy will come along. Your focus will be on God and you’ll be letting Him do the work for you.
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Wow! this was a great post I literally just had a conversation with the Lord this weekend about this very thing. It has been about six or seven years since my last relationship and I do know for sure there is no baggage I’m holding on to, but I know that I need to work on me some more and strengthen my relationship with God. Your post just confirmed that I’m on the right track.
Wow ! Praise God ! 🙂 happy to hear this 🙂
As a woman that has been single all of her life (those high school relationships don’t count) and nearly 30, I realized it’s about perspective. You have to be content in whatever stage you are in. If you don’t ever get married will you be bitter and think “it’s not fair, poor me”.
Yes, God wants us to have the desires of our heart IF it aligns with His will. It has to line up with HIS will in order for it to happen. I think a lot people omit that key fact. Plus you have to be honest as to why you want a husband. Is it because you want to lay with someone without guilt, financial security, or to save you from your present condition. Marriage is a ministry that will test in you so many areas and those reason just won’t cut it.
I learned if you want to go on a date, date yourself and get to know the real you. If you want to go on a trip book it. It’ll be a great story to tell others. If you’re lonely, it’s God pulling you closer to him. Learn to be content. Remember, this life isn’t all about you.
I couldn’t have said it better! Wise words. Thanks for sharing
I am single and content. Have I always been? No. Yes I’ve seen all my friends and family get engaged and married. I even saw a few get divorced and remarried. All the while I remained single. I’ve always been single and I’m nearly 30.
I learned it’s about being content with what you have. What if you never get married? Will you always be bitter or mope around thinking “why isn’t it my turn?” You have to focus on God and let go of the adult tantrums. Yes, he wants to give you the desires of your heart IF it aligns with his will. I think many omit that part.
You have to be real with yourself too. Do you just want a man/husband to have someone to lay with, financially support you, or save you from your current situation. The truth is that marriage is a ministry that will test you in ways you never imagined.
I learned if you want a ring, buy yourself one. If you want to go on a date, date yourself and get to know the real you. If you’re supposed to be married according to God’s will, it’ll happen in His timing and you can’t speed it up. So enjoy watching Lifetime movies in sweats with messy hair over the weekend while it last until you meet the one. Being single has its advantages too.